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Saleh al-Saadoon, Asshole of the Day for February 13, 2015
We highlight plenty of American politicians who say horrible things about rape. In the last week or so we’ve had
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Saleh al-Saadoon, Asshole of the Day for February 13, 2015

We highlight plenty of American politicians who say horrible things about rape. In the last week or so we’ve had 

But this is certainly not limited to American assholes. It’s world-wide. Here’s a Saudi historian lecturing about why women shouldn’t drive, which somehow ends up with rape:

In December, it was announced that two women who flouted the driving ban were to be tried in a special court for terrorism.

“They don’t care if they are raped on the roadside - but we do,” he told his host Nadeen Bdeir, according to a translation from the Middle East Media Research Institute (Memri).

“Hold on, who told you that they don’t care about getting raped by the roadside?” she asked incredulously.

“It’s not a big deal for them beyond the damage to their morale,” Dr al-Saadoon claimed. “In our case, however, the problem is of a social and religious nature.”

The amazing thing is how rape is something women must tolerate if they insist on independence. He doesn’t imply that anything should be done to prevent rape other than having male relatives drive women around. That’s some serious rape culture shit right there.

So, for using possible rape as an excuse to oppress women, rather than thinking men should, you know, stop raping women, Dr Saleh al-Saadoon is the Asshole of the Day.


It is Dr. Al-Saadoon’s first time as Asshole of the Day.

Full story: The Independent


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More rape talk!

Republican says rape can be ‘beautiful’ if it produces child

A Republican state lawmaker in West Virginia said on Thursday that while rape is horrible, it’s “beautiful” that a child could be produced in the attack.
According to Huffington Post, Charleston Gazette reporter David Gutman was on the scene when Delegate Brian Kurcaba ® said, “Obviously rape is awful,” but “What is beautiful is the child is that could come from this.”

And this isn’t even original. He’s basically plagiarizing this:

Indiana Senate candidate Richard Mourdock said that while sexual assaults are unfortunate, the resulting pregnancy is a “gift from God.”

That’s from 2012, and that quote lost Mourdock the election. But they can’t stop talking about rape. And here’s a good explainer on why they can’t stop: Why Republicans can’t stop talking about rape


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Brian Greene, Asshole of the Day for February 4, 2015
How long will it take before people understand that consent is required to have sex and that it is not enough that “they didn’t say no”? And to that end, unconscious people can never, ever...

Brian Greene, Asshole of the Day for February 4, 2015

How long will it take before people understand that consent is required to have sex and that it is not enough that “they didn’t say no”? And to that end, unconscious people can never, ever consent. A few months back it was CeeLo who didn’t get this, and now it’s a Utah state legislator.

Rep. Brian Greene is trying keep a law in Utah from defining sex with an unconscious person as being rape:

If an individual has sex with their wife while she is unconscious … a prosecutor could then charge that spouse with rape, theoretically,“ said Rep. Brian Greene, R-Pleasant Grove. "That makes sense in a first date scenario, but to me, not where people have a history of years of sexual activity.”

Green later made clear that while he did not support having sex with unconscious people, he questions whether sex with an unconscious person was “rape in every instance — dependent only upon the actor’s knowledge that the individual is unconscious. That’s the question. That’s what I struggle with.”

Frankly I don’t even know how it matters whether the rapist is aware of whether the person is unconscious– if the person you’re having sex with is unconscious and you can’t be bothered to notice, then that’s rape too in my book.

But back to his main assertion that in a marriage that it could be OK to have sex with an unconscious person and therefore not be rape. How could it possibly matter? So what if you’re married? It’s not like the marriage vows include a line about allowing sex while unconscious. Getting married doesn’t mean a lifetime of rape.

But Rep. Greene, I guess he doesn’t care about wives consenting to sex. He’s more worried that some husband might get charged with rape for forcing himself on an unconscious wife. And for that, he is the Asshole of the Day.


It is Brian Greene’s first time as Asshole of the Day, but one of many for saying horrible things about rape.

Full story: Talking Points Memo

Photo via Salt Lake Tribune


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Rick Brattin, Asshole of the Day for December 17, 2014
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Republicans clutch the pearls and cry foul every time someone suggests there is a war on women. But, if they are so in tune with the needs of women, why is...

Rick Brattin, Asshole of the Day for December 17, 2014

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Republicans clutch the pearls and cry foul every time someone suggests there is a war on women. But, if they are so in tune with the needs of women, why is there a neverending parade of Republicans who say awful things about rape and are always trying to limit women’s access to abortion and contraception?

Today’s episode of Republicans being assholes about rape and abortion comes from Missouri, where State Rep. Rick Brattin thinks men ought to get a say in whether women can get abortions:

Rick Brattin, a state representative from outside Kansas City, filed the bill on December 3 for next year’s legislative session. The proposed measure reads, “No abortion shall be performed or induced unless and until the father of the unborn child provides written, notarized consent to the abortion.”

The bill contains exceptions for women who become pregnant as the result of rape or incest—but there are caveats.

“Just like any rape, you have to report it, and you have to prove it,” Brattin tells Mother Jones. “So you couldn’t just go and say, ‘Oh yeah, I was raped’ and get an abortion. It has to be a legitimate rape.”

Brattin adds that he is not using the term “legitimate rape” in the same way as former Rep. Todd Akin (R-Mo.), who famously claimed that women couldn’t get pregnant from a “legitimate rape” because “the female body has ways to try to shut the whole thing down.”

“I’m just saying if there was a legitimate rape, you’re going to make a police report, just as if you were robbed,” Brattin says. “That’s just common sense.” Under his bill, he adds, “you have to take steps to show that you were raped…And I’d think you’d be able to prove that.” The bill contains no provision establishing standards for claiming the rape or incest exceptions. It also doesn’t state any specific penalties for violating the law nor say whether a penalty would be imposed on the woman seeking the abortion or the abortion provider.

Yes, he really does say “legitimate rape”. It would seem that once you’re explaining what you mean by “legitimate rape”, maybe you should reconsider your argument, but not for him. He just keeps on going.

Now there are two objectionable things here– the consent of the father, and his views on rape– so let’s take them one at a time.

Legitimate Rape. He asserts that if it really is a rape, you have to be able to prove it. This assumes that if you can’t prove it, it isn’t legitimately a rape. But when there only witnesses are the rapist and the rape victim, proof isn’t going to be perfect every time. Yes, there is some physical evidence, but what if it isn’t conclusive or there isn’t enough of it? Then, according to this asshole, it’s not legitimate. The legal standard of proof is such that we err on the side of the presumption of innocence. But his standard here will be to err on the side of not believing there was a rape. And the clock is ticking on getting this abortion, so if you can’t prove it fast enough, you’re still stuck with the rapist’s baby!

Consent of the Father. I suppose it sounds nice to say that men should get a say in whether the baby comes to term, but it’s a false fairness. Women don’t get an option in whether they or the man carries the baby to term, so giving the man more say in what happens without giving the woman more options is just one more burden on her. But I suspect that Brattin really doesn’t care about the woman. He wants to outlaw abortions, and if he can’t, then harassing women will do for now.

So, for giving women more burdens without giving them more options, along with his lack of empathy for rape victims, Rep. Rick Brattin is the Asshole of the Day.

It is Rick Brattin’s first time as Asshole of the Day.

Full story: Mother Jones


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Asshole of the Day for November 19, 2014

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Asshole of the Day, November 19, 2014: Don Lemon

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We feel like we keep repeating ourselves, but here goes nothing: when someone tells you they’ve been raped, the only acceptable comments are:

  • That’s horrible!
  • I’m so sorry to hear that.
  • You’re brave to share your story.

Your advice is not needed at a time like this, especially when said advice has an accusatory tone. CNN wonder boy Don Lemon obviously doesn’t read this blog - if he did, maybe he wouldn’t have put his foot in his mouth during a recent interview with a woman who says comedian (and scolder of low-income African-Americans) Bill Cosby raped her.

Lemon was questioning the woman about the details of the rape and wondered why she didn’t do more to avoid being assaulted.

“You — you know, there are ways not to perform oral sex if you didn’t want to do it.”

Thanks, Don…this is exactly what women need: tips from a man on how to not get raped.

Never mind that the woman was stoned - เล่นสล็อตออนไลน์ลุ้นรางวัลใหญ่all 15 of Cosby’s alleged victims say he drugged them before he raped them. Forget that she was probably scared beyond comprehension. And let’s ignore the fact that she probably had to separate her mind from her body just to get through the attack.

Those things don’t matter because, as Lemon reminded us, there are some things women can do to prevent rape.

We’ll stop short of calling Lemon’s questions victim blaming. You can decide on that.

But, consider this: if you were mugged, and some snooty TV host asked you why you didn’t fight the guy (gal) who snatched your purse…how would you feel? Would you like it if the cops asked you what you did to prevent your car from being stolen?

Rape victims, unlike victims of other crimes, are repeatedly asked to explain their actions leading up to, during and after the assault. There is still this persistent belief that what a victim wore, what they drank, whether or not they fought back or whether or not they immediately told someone about what happened are indicators of ‘real rape’.

Lemon’s question plays right into that thinking.

Of course, he apologized - we’re sure he wants to keep his job. It probably pays well.

Too bad apologies don’t mean much to us - we’re still naming Don Lemon Asshole of the Day.

This is Don Lemon’s first time as Asshole of the Day.


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Rush Limbaugh, Asshole of the Day for September 16, 2014
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Colleges are finally starting to tighten rules on sexual assault and rape, though certainly not as much or as fast as they should. And while many people...

Rush Limbaugh, Asshole of the Day for September 16, 2014

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Colleges are finally starting to tighten rules on sexual assault and rape, though certainly not as much or as fast as they should. And while many people consider less rape to be a good thing, there are those who come to its defense, especially on college campuses. For example, back in June George Will derided studies about the prevalence of rape on college campuses by calling rape victims liars.

But George Will is not alone in decrying attempts to stop rape on college campuses. Yesterday Rush Limbaugh explained how new rules at Ohio State violate his own beliefs about what is and isn’t rape:

Conservative radio host Rush Limbaugh mocked The Ohio State University’s new policy telling students to get clear, verbal consent before having sex. Limbaugh went on to ask guys “how many of you guys, in your own experience with women, have learned that no means yes if you know how to spot it?”

“Let me tell you something in this modern world — that is simply, that’s not tolerated,” Limbaugh continued. “People aren’t going to try to understand that one. I mean it used to be a cliche. It used to be part of the advice young boys were given. See that’s got to change. We have got to change the way we raise men.”

Why do you think permission every step of the way — aren’t these just lawsuits just waiting to happen if one of these steps are not taken,” Limbaugh said.

“Why do you think permission every step of the way?” To ask this question is to just not care about consent. To not care whether the other person wants to have sex with you. So they kissed you, so you think you can ignore them now saying no and go all the way? That’s what Rush is crying over.

As I mentioned when CeeLo was named Asshole of the Day for saying it’s not rape if they’re asleep, focusing on whether there is a no is the wrong discussion. Rather than “did she say no?”, we should teach people that they should only have sex with people who want to have sex with them, just like we do with everything else. Amanda Marcotte pointed out that someone has to have permission to come into your house, with her basic argument being that it’s not OK unless the homeowner says no in a certain clear way. You’re just not allowed to barge in, so you shouldn’t be allowed to force yourself on someone sexually unless they tell you no– they have to invite you. And an invitation to sex, just like an invitation into their house, is revokable. They can change their mind and ask you to leave. If they invite you into the living room, you aren’t allowed to barge into their bedroom unless they lead you there or tell you that you can. Why is it so hard for people to understand that the same rules should apply to sex?

Probably because they don’t want to. They don’t think it’s wrong to have sex with people who don’t want to have sex with them. They don’t think it’s wrong to take more from someone than that person is willing to give.

Look, the rules around rape won’t trip up anyone who is focused on only having sex with people who want to have sex with them. But Rush Limbaugh doesn’t care– he feels entitled to sex with women, and wants to keep them from expressing that they don’t want to have sex with him, because then he thinks it’s OK. And he thinks all men should be so entitled. And for that, he is the Asshole of the Day.

It is Rush Limbaugh’s seventh time as Asshole of the Day. Previous wins were for

Full story: Talking Points Memo.


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CeeLo Green, Asshole of the Day for September 3, 2014
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Last night CeeLo Green was defending himself against accusations of rape and sounded a lot like Todd Akin when he tweeted:
“ “If someone is passed out they’re...

CeeLo Green, Asshole of the Day for September 3, 2014

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Last night CeeLo Green was defending himself against accusations of rape and sounded a lot like Todd Akin when he tweeted:

“If someone is passed out they’re not even WITH you consciously. People who have really been raped REMEMBER!!!”

“Really been raped” sounds a lot like “legitimate rape”. And I noted that they each had different reasons for narrowing the definition of rape, but they were engaged in the same bullshit. Since tweeting that, CeeLo deleted the tweets, deleted his Twitter, restored his Twitter, and tweeted a short apology. But forced apologies aren’t worth much, and there’s no hint that he really understands why his reasoning is wrong, only that he’s sorry he said it (maybe).

Now Green wasn’t even charged with rape, but the assertion is out there, so he feels he must defend what he’s accused of:

Green’s lawyer argued the two had “consensual relations,” despite the woman’s claim that she woke up in bed next to Green and was unsure of what happened the night before.

Green faced one felony drug charge. Prosecutors’ claim of lack of evidence led to no rape charges being filed, but he was still sentenced to three years of probation, plus 45 days of community service.

The Voice coach also emphasized that he wasn’t admitting guilt by making a no contest plea.

This case and CeeLo’s defense goes to the real heart of many debates about rape these days– guys like CeeLo, along with their defenders over on Fox News, such as George Will, think that it’s not rape unless there’s a very clear no. That is, they aren’t focused on consent, but on protest. But that just ignores all the time that the person is incapacitated or under threat not to protest. The absence of protest is not consent. Consent must be a positive act, and without it, you’re in rape territory.

Amanda Marcotte at Raw Story explained this very well in July under the headline Instead of asking, “Did she say no?”, we should start asking, “Did she want to have sex?”

Here’s a piece I wrote kind of detailing out my problems with that argument, mostly that it’s a strawman and that assuming someone is automatically in a state of consent unless they phrase their refusals just so is not held for any other intimate behavior, such as allowing people in your home or allowing people to watch your children, and just for sex. Which is to say anti-feminists are actually arguing that the barrier for someone barging into your house should be higher than for them barging into your body. (And considering how most of them are anti-abortion, it follows that they believe the barrier for to force someone to have a baby should be lower than to force yourself into their house to sit on their couch.) Which is fucked up, to say the least.

What if, instead of saying, “Did she say no?” to this young man, the question was, “Did she want to have sex with you?” The answer to that seems screamingly obvious. Far from making things more complicated, framing the question this way would have made things much simpler.

Sure, there will always be men who will whine that it’s so hard to get laid if you have to bother knowing if your partner wants to have sex, too. But so what? If I ran around saying that it’s so hard to get invited to dinner without just walking into people’s houses uninvited, that wouldn’t change the fact that I’m criminally trespassing. If I insisted the only way I get to visit people is by barging into their houses, you’d tell me that it’s my responsibility to learn how to make friends so I get invited. Men who want to have sex should be held to the same minimum standard.

So, just as it’s not OK to rob someone’s house while they are asleep, it’s not OK to violate their person because they are asleep or too sleepy or drunk to put up a fight. But CeeLo thinks there’s a difference between the two, and for that he is the Asshole of the Day.

It is CeeLo Green’s first time as Asshole of the Day, but one of many for saying horrible things about rape.

Full story: Buzzfeed.


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CeeLo Green is starting to sound a lot like Todd Akin

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Behold how they both try to split hairs on rape to suit their own purposes.

Todd Akin redefines rape so he doesn’t sound like a heartless monster for forcing raped women to carry their rapist’s baby:

If it’s a legitimate rape, the female body has ways to try to shut that whole thing down.

CeeLo Green redefines rape so that it doesn’t include what he’s accused of:

Green’s lawyer argued the two had “consensual relations,” despite the woman’s claim that she woke up in bed next to Green and was unsure of what happened the night before.

“If someone is passed out they’re not even WITH you consciously,” he said, adding, “People who have really been raped REMEMBER!!!”

Photo source: 

https://twitter.com/toddakin

https://twitter.com/CeeLoGreen


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Phyllis Schlafly, Asshole of the Day for September 2, 2014
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Every now and then the GOP will try to hide their war on women by pushing front and center a woman who is also happy to do so. Last summer during Rick...

Phyllis Schlafly, Asshole of the Day for September 2, 2014

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Every now and then the GOP will try to hide their war on women by pushing front and center a woman who is also happy to do so. Last summer during Rick Perry’s push to restrict abortion under the guise of protecting women’s health (despite there being no exception to save the life of the mother), they trotted out Rep. Jody Laubenberg who justified the lack of exception for rape by claiming “rape kits prevent pregnancy”, instead of that they are merely to gather evidence of the crime of rape. Last week I satirized this as

And of course one woman has relished her role in trying to keep women oppressed for almost 40 years– Phyllis Schlafly. And over the weekend, she spoke out and claimed that rape and domestic violence are the fault of single, career women:

We all know that married men can still be violent to their families, but they are far less likely to be violent against women than are live-in boyfriends.

Why is this? It’s true that women who have found men who are already better partners are more likely to marry them, but it’s also true that marriage settles men down. Being married makes a man care more about his family’s expectations and future because he sees his family as enduring. It also makes him more faithful and committed to his partner. Marriage makes men directly protective of their wives, and living in a home with their daughters gives them the opportunity to be directly protective of them as well. Marriage also creates indirect protection for wives and daughters, because married women and their children tend to live in safer neighborhoods.

So what’s the answer for women who worry about male violence? It’s not to fear all men. It’s to reject the lifestyle of frequent “hookups,” which is so much promoted on college campuses today, while the women pursue a career and avoid marriage.

She starts by identifying that women are less likely to marry men who commit violence against them, which should adequately explain why domestic violence is more common among unmarried women. That makes sense and we can all agree on that. I’ve even made that exact same argument in June when Bradford Wilcox blamed single moms for the sexual abuse of their daughters.

But rather than stick with the wisdom of women to explain these differences, she goes the other direction and assumes that in marriage women calm men down so that they are no longer interested in hurting women. Thus women who haven’t married are the real culprits here. It’s important to note how ridiculous this is– where many conservatives will blame a woman for her own rape because of what she was wearing, etc., Schlafly is blaming all single women (and especially career women) for all the rapes and domestic violence in the world.

Another point here is that she assumes that domestic violence and rape are part of the nature of single men. To her men are all monsters, but that’s OK, because that’s how God made them. It’s not their fault– women are supposed to fix that, and if not, well, that’s the woman’s fault.

So, for blaming single women for domestic violence and rape, Phyllis Schlafly is the Asshole of the Day.

It is Phyllis Schlafly’s second time as Asshole of the Day. Her previous win was for saying the best way to help women is to pay men even more or women will never get married.

Full story: Right Wing Watch.


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Todd Akin, Asshole of the Day for July 10, 2014
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We didn’t start Asshole of the Day until May 2013, so we missed Todd Akin the first time around. But he’s back, and he has a book, and God help us all, it sort of...

Todd Akin, Asshole of the Day for July 10, 2014

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We didn’t start Asshole of the Day until May 2013, so we missed Todd Akin the first time around. But he’s back, and he has a book, and God help us all, it sort of sounds like he might run again.

Back in 2013 he said:

“if it’s a legitimate rape, the female body has ways to try to shut that whole thing down.”

But apparently the criticism he faced for that, which helped to derail his senate campaign, was not enough. Rather than just slink away, he wants to talk about it again 2 years later. He rescinds his apology and says he was right all along:

“By asking the public at large for forgiveness,” Akin says in the book, “I was validating the willful misinterpretation of what I had said.”

He adds that the media misconstrued his words and explains why he’s still right about rape and pregnancy. “My comment about a woman’s body shutting the pregnancy down was directed to the impact of stress of fertilization. This is something fertility doctors debate and discuss. Doubt me? Google ‘stress and infertility,’ and you will find a library of research” on the impact of stress on fertilization, he writes.

And Akin doubles down on the term “legitimate,” which he says refers to a rape claim that can be proved by “evidence,” as opposed to one used “to avoid an unwanted pregnancy.”

But of course Todd Akin is wrong, wrong, wrong. As we pointed out last year when we named Rep. Trent Franks as Asshole of the Day for claiming “the incidence of rape resulting in pregnancy is very low.”, women do get pregnant from rape. Lots of them. It’s not a small number– 30,000 women get pregnant by rape each year:

Medical experts agree that rape does not lower the incidence of pregnancy, with one study by the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology finding that more than 30,000 pregnancies result from rape in the United States each year.

And why does it matter that Todd Akin is wrong about this? And why does he keep saying that rape somehow magically prevents pregnancy? Because majorities of Americans have consistently supported abortion as an option in cases of rape. But guys like Todd Akin want to outlaw abortion in every case, so to get people to go along, they have to convince people that they aren’t forcing rape victims to carry and raise rape babies. And the way some of them do it is by coming up with cockamamie arguments that raped women don’t get pregnant because then there doesn’t need to be any exception. That’s why.

Which is also why Akin is suggesting that some rapes aren’t legitimate– because by defining legitimate rapes as so horrible the woman’s body is so stressed it doesn’t become pregnant, then he’s defined away all those other women as not being legitimately raped.

It’s horrible and offensive that Akin made this argument to start, and even more offensive that he’s still making it now. But make no mistake– this is the argument that he’s making with all his “legitimate rape” and “stress prevents pregnancy” bullshit. He’s doing it to hide how he wants to compel rape victims to bear their rapist’s baby. And for that, he is Asshole of the Day.

It is Todd Akin’s first time as Asshole of the Day.

Full story: Mother Jones


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